The Importance Of Mindset

Today I’m sharing a snippet from my future eBook. This is from the chapter on the importance of thoughts and mindset.

The Importance of Mindset | Life, Unleashed

For years, I’ve struggled with low self-esteem. I could blame it on my parents’ divorce, or any number of things. But that wouldn’t change my situation. If anything, dwelling on blame, resentment, and/or any other negatives only adds to the problem.

What I have been coming to discover, recently, is that so much of life depends on our thoughts and our mindset. In pretty much every area of life, how you look at things determines how they are. It’s very much about perspective. Even the Bible agrees! Proverbs 23:7 {KJV} says, “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” And, Philippians 4:8 encourages us: “…whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable—if there is any moral excellence and if there is any praise—dwell on these things.”

God frequently reminds us, throughout Scripture, to PAY ATTENTION… to keep alert, and to be aware. The reason for this is because we are in a constant war — not physically, but mentally and spiritually; good vs. evil; our flesh against our spirit.

Joyce Meyer tells us that our mind is the battlefield — our battles are won or lost there. Think about any temptation you’ve faced. If you kept thinking about the thing, eventually you would give in, right? But, if you don’t allow yourself to dwell on thoughts of the thing — if you dismiss these tempting thoughts right away — then you are able to stand strong and resist.

Nowhere has this been more evident to me than in my eating and my attempts to lose weight. The more I think about eating when I’m not hungry, the weaker I get. Eventually, I have made enough excuses and rationalizations in my mind that I end up giving in.

However, on the (still rare) occasions when I dismiss the tempting thoughts outright, and distract myself with other things, I find myself victorious, and moving forward!

Taking control of our thought life, then, is so extremely important! It’s a cliche now, since it is said so much, but it remains true:

YOU NEED TO CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE!

Something that has been helpful to me in becoming more aware of my thoughts has been to write out the negative things I think, and then — directly beneath the negatives — write out the positive alternatives. Psychologists call this exercise “reframing”. So, for example:

Negative: I cannot lose this excess weight.
Positive: I am taking baby steps toward losing my excess weight, and getting healthy

Negative: I am so stupid when it comes to this!
Positive: How can I go about learning more about this so that I feel more confident and capable?

It is important to remember that Satan will do anything and everything he can to “kill, steal, and destroy” what is good and positive in our lives. He is intent on keeping us stuck in the mediocre and mundane, so he puts negative thoughts in our minds to keep us from living in the Truth. He knows that if we get control of our thoughts, he’s going to have an awfully hard time making us miserable from that point on.

Another great way to change your mindset is to “reframe” with Scripture. Logan Wolfram, in her book, “Curious Faith”, calls this “Praying the Opposites”.

Say you’re feeling discouraged. The opposite of this would be feeling hopeful. So you would then look up verses in the Bible that talk about hope, and you’d use those verses to pray to God, asking for Him to “renew your mind” according to what His Word says.

You can do this with the negatives you are thinking about yourself, as well! For example:

Negative: I cannot do this!
Positive: Philippians 4:13 says that “I can do ALL THINGS through Christ, who strengthens me!”

Negative: I will never be able to pay my bills this month.
Positive: Philippians 4:19 tells me that “My God will supply all of {my} needs, according to His riches…”

So, don’t let the devil win! Take control of your thought life, and pray for a renewed mindset. It’s the only way to walk in victory.

WHAT NEGATIVE THOUGHTS DO YOU BATTLE WITH THAT YOU CAN TURN INTO POSITIVES? HOW WOULD YOU REFRAME THEM?

How to Renew Your Mind & Change Your Life

Just 30 minutes a day. That’s all it takes. Influencers like Jim Rohn & Tony Robbins will tell you the same thing.

So, 30 minutes of what?

How to Renew Your Mind ... and Change Your Life | Life, Unleashed

A LITTLE BACKGROUND

Growing up, I was extremely insecure and timid. I felt unliked and unimportant, and had a very “glass half-empty” outlook on life.

Everything in life seemed to be against me. I was always waiting for that other shoe to drop, so-to-speak.

And yet…

My mom had always encouraged my siblings and I to read. She took us to the bookstore & bought us books. And, we often saw her, Dad –and even Grandma– reading.

When I was pregnant with my first child, I was unable to work, due to an injury, so I spent a lot of time reading. And, over the next ten years, as a stay-at-home-mom, I ended up reading more and more, as a way to pass the time.

In 2005, however, things started to shift. Instead of constantly reading fiction, I was now seeking out more and more nonfiction — at that time, mainly health & fitness books. Next, I was reading more Christian Living. Then, books on business, and success, and entrepreneurship, and personal development. Until, one day, I realized that I hardly read fiction at all, any more!

A SHIFT…

Ever since I began reading more nonfiction, there has been a shift in my life. I am no longer negative and seeing life as “out to get me”. I don’t blame others, or circumstances, for how my life is turning out but, instead, I accept responsibility for the choices I’ve made that have lead me to this point.

I’ve begun to submerge myself in positive messages, and to surround myself with people and words that lift me up and give me hope.

I now look at life very optimistically (despite less-than-ideal circumstances), and have an “anything is possible!” mindset.

What changed?

THE KEY

I honestly have to credit the books I read, plus the YouTube videos, and various pages I follow on Facebook that keep me constantly immersed in positive messages. And, obviously, I can’t go without giving credit to God, because I also prayed and asked Him to renew my mindset. He is faithful. ♥

In Network Marketing, we are encouraged to do at least thirty minutes of personal development each day.

Personal Development: the conscious pursuit of personal growth by expanding self-awareness and knowledge, and improving personal skills.

I believe this is for several reasons:

IT CHANGES YOUR PERSPECTIVE

Like I’ve mentioned, I went from being very negative and woe-is-me, to having a completely shifted view, or outlook, on life. I am now an optimist!

IT SHOWS YOU WHAT IS POSSIBLE

Before I started to read about others’ lives, and how they went from difficult starts to raving success, I had only my own circumstances (and that of those around me) to look to for an example of what might be possible. Since no one in my circle was all that influential, my expectations were pretty limited.

However, in reading these others’ success stories, I began to see how “small” I’d been thinking, and my ideas for what I could achieve began to expand.

Marianne Williamson quoteIT FORCES YOU TO LEVEL UP

When you surround yourself with those who are optimistic, positive, and driven — even if it’s only by following these people via social media, and/or reading their books, or watching their videos — you can’t help but be inspired to think differently. And, when you think differently, you then act differently.

You can continue to “play small”, but it won’t feel right. You will have an inner restlessness, drawing you towards becoming more, because you’ve now seen that more is possible!

IT CHANGES WHO YOU SURROUND YOURSELF WITH

When you begin to shift your mindset away from the negative, towards a more optimistic view, you’ll find it really hard to continue to spend any great amount of time with those who are still stuck in that negative thinking. As such, you will begin to seek out, and spend time with (again, perhaps only virtually), others who think positively, and are actively working on themselves and their lives.

IT PUSHES YOU TO PURSUE A BETTER LIFE

When you know better, you can do better. When you know more, you want more.

No longer will you be content to settle for what’s ordinary or expected. Instead, you will believe there’s so much more that is possible, and you will actively pursue that for your life.

And, not only will you want more for yourself, but you will also want to pass it on… to tell others, “Hey! You’ve got to try this!” (just like I’m doing with this post!)

When you’ve experienced something that changes your life in such a big way, you can’t help but tell others about it!

WHAT’S NEXT?

Let me strongly encourage you to give this a try. Like I said, all it takes is just thirty minutes a day, and you will start to notice a shift in your life. If you’re not big on reading, try listening to audio books (my friend, Sarah, never liked to read… but, after she got into network marketing, she decided to listen to books on CD… and from there, she started buying & actually reading physical books!).

You can also watch videos on YouTube, listen to podcasts, watch webinars… there are a lot of options.

And, if you don’t feel you can fit in 30 minutes all at once, try starting with just 10 minutes per day. Then, work your way up to 20 minutes… and, again, work your way up, from there, to 30 minutes. The more you do it, the easier it gets.

The key is to ignore your excuses, and just start. Find what works for you.

Need some ideas of who to follow? Check out the list I’ve created just for you on my Library page!

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Kickstart Your Health

Are you tired of being overweight, and feeling like you’re missing out on life?

Wouldn’t you love to finally overcome this challenge, without having to suffer on the way to your goal?

30-Minute Kickstart Sessions

Learn how to lose the weight in a simple way!

  • No food restrictions
  • No required exercise programs
  • No counting (of anything!)
  • No specialty foods to hunt down

You can still eat out at restaurants, without making a fuss.

And you don’t have to cook “special” food for yourself, on top of what you’re already making for your family’s dinner.

WHAT YOU GET

Each 30-minute session will take place via video chat (through Zoom, Skype, or Facebook video — Note: if you prefer to do these with the video turned off, that’s completely okay, too).

During these sessions, you and I will talk about your goals, and where you are currently at, and then I will coach you to start figuring out a plan that will work best for you. I will teach you what I’ve learned, from my 18 year struggle to lose the weight, and help you learn the tools and tricks that helped me change my mindset around food and eating.

Along with your coaching session, you will also get access to these bonuses:

+ free, ongoing support & accountability in my private Facebook community

+ a free downloadable workbook to help you figure out what’s been holding you back

 

Sound good? Click on the green “Schedule Session” button, below…

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* Disclaimer: Always check with your doctor or medical professional before starting any new eating or exercise program. These sessions are not intended to provide medical advice. Please consult with your doctor if you have any special conditions, such as Diabetes, heart problems, or other medical restrictions.


TESTIMONIALS

Jenn has been a great, ongoing support and encouragement. She is always quick to lend support, and push me toward the goals I have set for myself, even on the days when it feels impossible. Without her as my cheerleader and encourager, I may have given up long ago.
~ Laurel Hill

When Jenn reached out to help me, it was like having someone take all of the clutter in my mind and make it into a neat list. The vast array of knowledge Jenn holds is an incredible gift that she shares with others. I’m glad I found her through a mutual Facebook group, because otherwise I would still be totally lost.
~ Kelly G.

Jenn is a human encyclopedia when it comes to literally anything and everything. I have asked her a question, and she gives me a list of ten resources to go look at. I’ve asked her for some type of resource, and she doesn’t just give you one, she gives you a ton! She gets all sides and angles. I am so appreciative of all the help Jenn has given me and the people in my community.
~ Shawn Quintero

Jenn is a woman with a big heart and big dreams. In a recent conversation with her, it became very clear that she has a heart for God, and a desire to inspire women to embrace their dreams, and live a life that puts Jesus first. I highly recommend that you get to know Jenn.
~ Wadeny Lockhart

Jenn has a resource for just about any subject I’ve spoken with her about. She has a wide-ranging knowledge base, due to her many interests. Jenn is definitely your go-to source for information online.
~ Stan Michael

When I was totally freaked out on what to concentrate on, Jenn helped me realize that a few is sometimes better. I would definitely recommend Jenn. She was very understanding with my problems, and it felt like she was not some distant expert, but someone closer to me who once had the same questions I was now struggling with.
~ Noemi Mate

What It Means to Live Free

I think it’s safe to say that every human being longs for freedom — some probably more than others.

For those of us over here in the West, we enjoy a lot of freedoms. And yet, we often let ourselves get into bondage.

What do I mean?

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I guess I’m thinking mainly along the lines of mindset. We get “stuck” in certain ways of thinking, which leads to feeling stuck in certain behaviors… and we end up not feeling so “free”.

So, what does it mean to “live free”? When you read my site’s tagline (Dream Big … Live Free), what comes to mind?

Living free might look different to different people, as we all see things through the lens of our own circumstances, etc. For me, though, living free looks like this:

• It is taking ownership of your God-given identity, personality, and CHOICES.

• It is letting go of being controlled by others’ expectations of you… and the “shoulds” that try to run your life.

• It is letting go of mediocre, aimless living (life where you’re existing, rather than thriving).

• It is freedom of choice.

• It is finding what works for you, in all areas of your life.

• It is pursuing your purpose, regardless of how crazy it might seem to those around you.

• It is feelings of victory, boldness, and the confidence that comes from knowing who you really are.

• It is a soul-deep knowing that you are meant for more.

• It is living authentically true –without apology– to who God created you to be.

• It is intentionally designing your life’s path, in cooperation with God, embracing His plan for you, and learning to live in the freedom that that brings!

BE FREE • BE YOU • DREAM BIG

So, what does “living free” look like to you?

Unfollowing

Doesn’t it drive you crazy when a friend or family member suddenly gets on a health-kick, and starts putting their running log and/or sweaty selfies all over Facebook? You think to yourself, “Well, gee, good for you… but I don’t want to see that!” So {click}… you unfollow them.

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Five years ago, I did just that — I’d unfollow anyone who was working on bettering themselves and sharing their progress on social media. Why? Because it reminded me of how much I, myself, wasn’t doing in my own life. It highlighted the truth and my weaknesses, and that made me uncomfortable. So, it was easier to unfollow these people than it was to face my own issues.

Something funny happened, though. Much as I no longer followed these people, the “seed” had already been planted. While I didn’t see the connection, in the midst of things, I did go on to work on my own issues — my own health, and mindset — and got to a place where I was ready to seek out those who could push me. Now, instead of being repelled, I was being drawn to those who were working on bettering themselves because they inspired me to want more for myself.

In April 2016, I’d done a lot of work on renewing my mindset, and was ready to get my body healthy, too. So, I signed myself up for a gym membership. I told myself, “Enough is enough” — I was done being a “victim” in my life, and was ready to become the strong, confident, healthy woman I knew I was created to be.

At the same time, an acquaintance of mine –Sarah– had also been struggling to get healthy, and had made the decision to do something about it. She shared on Facebook about how she’d chosen to sign up as a health coach, so that she’d have the built-in accountability of being an example to others, and to have the possibility of making a bit of side income while doing so.

Over the course of the following year, I continued to go to the gym 2x/week to work on building up my strength, and Sarah worked out at home, using her online fitness workouts. I didn’t lose much weight (since I was still overeating how I’d always done), and Sarah was steadily dropping pounds and inches (since she’d also started clean eating, along with her workouts).

As of April 2017, Sarah had built a team of others who were now also working out and eating better consistently, and she was earning a decent amount of income from this part-time business (despite the fact that she’s a mom of 3 who was working full-time, and going to school full-time, all while managing her household!). She’d dropped 30+ pounds, too! I couldn’t just sit by any longer. If she could do it, so could I… so I became a coach, too!

Sarah’s transformation

Honestly, I’m two months in, as of this writing, but I love it! The other coaches are all so positive and upbeat, and the company’s leaders are heart-centered business people, focused on ending the trend of obesity, through helping people live healthier, more fulfilling lives. There’s a service mindset that runs throughout the entire organization, and I am proud to be a part of this.

Wanna know something funny, though? Sarah likes to tell the story of how she, herself, at one point, had unfollowed her friend, Rosa — who later became the person that inspired Sarah to become a coach! It took three years of following (and unfollowing) Rosa, for Sarah to finally be ready to make the decision to invest in her health. The seed had been planted, though.

I believe we all have to go through our own process of working on our mindset and the other inner demons that hold us back. We all have the ability to transform our lives… but we have to believe that it’s possible, and we have to find the method that works best for us.

I thought I could do it on my own. I was wrong. I needed the accountability, just as much as anyone else.

Now I’m working on paying it forward, while I continue to work on myself.

And you can do the same!

Hiding

Remember playing “Hide-and-Go-Seek” as a kid? My favorite part was finding the best hiding place: As an introvert, it was even more fun, because it meant I got to be alone for a longer time before the “seeker” found me!

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Until recently, I didn’t realize it, but I’ve still been “hiding”. And, as an online entrepreneur, that’s not exactly the best practice… you actually want people to find you.

Some of the ways I’ve been hiding include:

  • not writing and publishing blog posts
  • not following my friends’ posts on Facebook
  • not commenting on others’ Facebook posts
  • not promoting my services everywhere I can

Part of the reason for all of this “hiding”, I believe, lies in the fact that showing up requires vulnerability and courage. I’ve been far too much of a perfectionist, as well — for example, I usually feel like, if I can’t get my posts to come out as “perfect” as I picture them in my head, then it’s pointless to even write them. Obviously, that’s completely false, but that’s basically how my mind works.

Thankfully, I have come across something that’s helped me to shift my perspective on this, and I’m finally working past these obstacles that have been tripping me up.

In his recently published book, “Authentic Content Marketing“, George Kao shares his three (3) stages of content creation. Stage One involves creating a ton of posts and such, without putting in too much effort. Then you publish that content — with zero expectations about how it will be received (I know… crazy, right?). George’s second stage is to go back through all of your ‘stage one’ content, after about a month, and look to see which posts got the most (if any) engagement from your ideal audience. Then you take that content, and re-do it, adding even more value to it, and you publish it again (either in the same format on a different platform, or vice versa). Later, you take the best of that ‘stage two’ content, and compile it into some kind of infoproduct (be it an eBook, eCourse, or something else)… that’s Stage Three.

That concept of pushing out a ton of content that you neither slave over creating, nor stress over its outcome, that was truly “revolutionary” to me … a mindset shift. George even went on to say that our job is to publish our message… and it’s our audience’s job (not ours!) to determine which content is worthwhile. Too often, though, we — as creators — are biased, and think that most of what we publish is awesome. We’re too close to it to be objective.

Anyway. All of that is helping me to step past my perfectionism and fears, and to just start showing up — no more hiding.

Two other things are helping me to move forward, as well.

The first being that I need to practice what I preach — if I want those I work with (via mentoring, etc.) to be vulnerable and courageous, then I need to be modelling that, myself. I need to become the best version of myself, in order to be able to genuinely encourage others to do the same.

And lastly, letting my fears keep me from sharing my message is not helping anyone! It doesn’t help me, but it also keeps my message from helping those whom I’m meant to serve!

So, that’s it. I’m done hiding. No longer am I going to let my fear or perfectionism keep me and my content locked away. Playing small serves no one. I have a message to share, and it can no longer be held back.

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Tell me… How have YOU been hiding? What could you do to become more visible?

A Story of Transition

Finding one’s purpose in life is hard. Figuring out God’s calling on your life is also hard. This is something I’ve been struggling with, for years.

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When I started my self-employment journey in late 2013, I was mostly concerned with pursuing my life-long dream of being my own boss. And I chose to become a virtual author’s assistant, then, because it’s what I knew — I had gone to school for office administration, had worked in various receptionist positions since, and was an avid reader with a long list of authors with whom I’d already been building relationships. And while this niche proved profitable for a time, I came to realize that it wasn’t really bringing me joy… which is one of the reasons I was pursuing self-employment — so that I could love what I do for a living.

Next, I thought I’d pursue Life Coaching. I’ve always loved to advise, encourage, and support others, and I’m passionate about hearing of and seeing others’ transformations. Add to that my fascination with personal development, and it seemed like the perfect fit!

…That is, until I realized that getting my certification and training would cost far more money than I had or could come up with at that time. Needless to say, that idea fizzled out pretty quickly.

Around this time, God was really starting to speak to my heart about my motives. I started desiring to know what path He wanted me to take, and I agonized over the fact that it seemed like He wanted me to be a Writer.

To be honest, while I enjoy journaling, and do that for my own development on a regular basis, I have never really loved the idea of writing a book, or anything similar. I mean, sure, I participated in NaNoWriMo in 2006, and completed the goal (50K words in 30 days). But I had — and have — no desire to be a published author.

So the question, then, became, how can I fulfill this supposed “calling” to be a Writer, without actually having to write or publish a book?

Well, I’d already been blogging (as a hobby) since 2005, and had grown my following to over 1700 people. I knew others were having great success, monetarily, as “professional bloggers”, by way of sponsored posts, ads, and affiliate links. So I decided that was as good a solution as anything, and I opened up a new blog.

By this point, mind you, a lot of my previous followers were getting tired of my indecision. So they started leaving, choosing to no longer follow me. And really, I don’t blame them (I was getting frustrated with myself!).

I continued to try and figure out what God wanted me to do — what to write, who to target, etc. — and felt like the name I’d chosen (A Daily Rhythm) wasn’t the right fit; it was too mellow, and my heart was screaming for something upbeat and empowering. So, much as I hated changing things up yet again, I knew I had to — and the Life, Unleashed blog was born.

(side note: I’ve gotten several comments from new acquaintances, saying that they love the name of my site — so that has helped me to feel better about the decision!)

Shortly after opening Life, Unleashed in early 2016, I finally stumbled on what I believed was God’s plan for me… as well as my ideal reader, what I should write about, and my “niche”. I was super-stoked to finally feel I’d found it.

Through research, and through talking to various people, I realized that the best way for me to reach the most people with my message, and to have the greatest impact, was going to be through creating an eCourse. So, I did some surveys, and I started learning all I could about what would be involved in course creation. I brainstormed, and I created an outline, and I came up with some preliminary content.

I’ve always loved to share (advise, coach, teach, support, encourage), so teaching an eCourse felt like a good thing for me to do. However… as I was working on that, I was still hesitating. Partly out of fear of the unknown, sure. But part of it, I discovered, was because I have an issue with trying to teach something that I, myself, haven’t yet gotten at least somewhat of a grasp on. It’s hypocritical, and I can’t do it.

As such, when another job possibility came up that would allow me to continue working from home and still allow me to help others experience transformations in their lives, I couldn’t help but think that maybe another transition was needed … at least, for now.

healthy living

Long story short, I have decided to become a healthy living coach. Since I’ve previously had some success in this area, and since I needed the accountability that would come from continuing my own health journey alongside others who are looking to do the same, I figured this would be the best option.

What about my supposed “calling” to be a writer? Honestly, I don’t know. Maybe it’s something I still am supposed to do, eventually. Or, maybe I had it wrong all along. I don’t know, yet. But I do believe that God will show me.

In the meantime, the really awesome part about this new role is that it still fits with a lot of what I’ve already been sharing, here at Life, Unleashed. It encompasses mindset, choices, practice, and perspective… all of which are the foundational values this site is built on!

So, if you would like to join me in taking back your health, I have a free community on Facebook called Unleashed Nation, where I will be sharing motivational quotes, tips, and the occasional mini-challenge to keep things exciting. Hopefully I’ll see you there!

REVIEW: Moving Forward by John Siebeling

Moving Forward: Overcoming the Habits, Hangups, and Mishaps That Hold You Back” by John Siebeling

 

In Moving Forward, John Siebeling talks about the habits and mindsets that hold us back from living the abundant life that God has promised to us (John 10:10), and from moving forward.

He touches on topics like our emotions, and how we are responsible for how our lives turn out (how we react to life’s ups and downs is up to us). He talks about mindset and choices, too, which I love, as it aligns with what I teach, here on my blog!

Lastly, John also talks about dreaming big, and about our financial habits. There’s even a budget guide included in the back of the book!

Overall, I enjoyed this book, and found it to be a quick, easy read with lots of practical information. Definitely recommended.


A complimentary copy of this book was provided for review by the Baker Books Blogger program.

Battling For Freedom

It was raining. A dismal, grey day in February. It made me want to curl up on the couch and ignore my priorities. I had things to do, but the Dark Side (how I refer to the devil & his minions, lately) was fighting hard to keep me down.

I’m sure you have had days like these, yourself.

And, as my newly acquired accountability partner, Anna, likes to say, the struggle is real.

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I am thanking God for Anna, though! I’d complained to her about how I was feeling, and I tried to make excuses for why I wasn’t going to get things done. But she wouldn’t let me succumb to the Dark Side — she told me that I needed to “do it anyway” (just GO!), and that I’d feel better afterward.

I kept arguing with the Dark Side, in my mind. I was still making justifications, even after talking to Anna. But, I’ve been here before. I have fought this battle countless times, in the past year, especially, as I have been building the habit of going to the gym on a regular basis. And, each time I’ve made myself “do it anyway”, I have felt better afterward…and I’ve been able to do a little victory dance, as I’ve dealt one more blow to the enemy!

So in the end, yes, I did go to the gym, and I did get my errands run. Score: Jenn – 1, Dark Side – 0 … for the win!

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John 10:10 tells us about the Dark Side. It says that the enemy (the “thief”) “comes to kill, to steal, and to destroy“. He is out to KILL our dreams, to STEAL our freedom, and to DESTROY our future! And, he does it one poisonous thought at a time.

That is why we’re instructed (in 2 Corinthians 10:5) to “TAKE EVERY THOUGHT CAPTIVE”, and make our thoughts submit to Jesus’ ways. The battle truly does begin in our minds!

It is not easy, by any means. But then, that’s why it’s called a “battle”, right? We have to fight back against the Dark Side! Our default setting is to do what is easiest, and what feels comfortable in the moment. We’re suckers for pleasure. But that is exactly what the enemy wants — to get us comfortable so that we will forget that we’re in a war.

My goal is to level up my life, and to take back the years that the enemy has already stolen from me. And, if I have to do that one thought at a time, so be it! Like with getting myself to the gym … some days, I really have to fight my thoughts HARD! But, I usually end up telling myself that I can just do 20 minutes of cardio (on the treadmill). By the time I’m there and warming up, though, I always decide that I “may as well” do the rest of my workout. So, I win. It’s always that FIRST step that’s the hardest. And, like I read in someone else’s post, the other day, that first step is actually… SURRENDER. I know — it sounds counter-intuitive, right? Surrendering –not to the Dark Side, but to God’s will for my life– is how I win, because Jesus already fought the battle and won the victory for us! So all we have to do is CHOOSE to surrender to Him. By choosing to go against the Dark Side, by choosing to take our thoughts captive, and by choosing to fight for the abundant life and foregoing the “easy” path, we are choosing to accept Jesus’ victory, and to stand with Him against the enemy! So yes, surrender to God is how we win against the Dark Side.

This is war, friends. But we’re already victors! So, stand strong, and show the Dark Side that you won’t be falling for its schemes!

 


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Who Do You Want To Be?

Do you have an alter-ego — a vision in your mind of who you would like to become? Maybe you’ve made attempts to change and become that person by making lists of what you need to do to change into that version of yourself. But, what if there was a better way? What if, instead, you focused on the who, rather than the what?

 

Who Do You Want to Be? | Life, UnleashedI came across this fantastic quote, yesterday:

Darren Hardy quote

Powerful stuff. And, it ties right in with what James Clear says about identity-based habits.

Nia, at SipBlack.net, also wrote about these identity-based habits. She says:

“You need to become the kind of person who can reach those lofty goals. Be committed to embodying that individual. Then stop thinking like you, and start thinking like that other person… Create someone, if you must… If you won’t get it together, then become someone who will.”

Nia also writes:

“Reinventing yourself makes you aware of the sheer power of the mind… you can become anyone you want, do anything you want.”

So many times we try to begin with deciding to change our actions. And, while this might work for a time, many of us find ourselves falling back into the same old patterns.

Taking on a new persona, however, is based on a mindset shift… and this, truly, is key to any lasting change.

I think it’s important to remember here, that what is changing is what you do, when you do it, and how you do it. You aren’t necessarily changing your fundamental beliefs or values.

For example, my own alter-ego is someone who still holds to Christian beliefs, and values Freedom & Authenticity. However, this “better me” is someone who:

  • follows a daily schedule
  • obeys God without hesitation
  • eats wholesome, nutritious food 90% of the time
  • is capable of defending herself, if need be
  • is confident and secure in who she is
  • etc.

Basically, she excels where I often find myself lacking. In acting as though I am this other persona, I am just acting in the way I would truly prefer to be acting, anyway. In so doing, I’m leveling up!

So, if you could reinvent yourself, who would you become? What does this better version of you look like? Feel free to comment below!