Finding Your “Why”

When is the last time you tried to change a habit? How did you do? Were you successful?

A lot of people do okay for a little while, but then things come up, and they find themselves reverting back to their old ways.

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In the past, you might have been told, and/or believed that you just needed some stronger willpower. Nowadays, however, it’s coming to light that that’s maybe not the case.

Instead, a better method is to find your “why”.

Your why is the soul-deep reason behind the changes you’re wanting to make.

In her book, “F.I.T. 10 Steps To Your Faith Inspired Transformation“, Kim Dolan Leto recommends that your “why” be rooted in one of three areas: relational, medical, or spiritual. The reason for this is that these are areas most closely tied to our core values. As such, our why — our reason for wanting to change — will be super-strong, and will have its roots deep enough to keep us motivated and moving forward, even when life tries to throw us curve balls, and derail our plans.

To give you an example, my own “why” is two-fold: spiritual and medical. First, I want to be able to live life to the fullest, and I can’t do that if I’m unable to get my butt off the couch. Second, I’m tired of feeling like a “victim” in my life, and am aiming to build up my strength, physically. I started with going to the gym. Now, I’m turning my focus to eating better, and to continuing my strength-training from home.

Life has definitely tried to mess with my plans, several times in the past year. But remembering my reasons for making these changes has helped me to continue. Thinking of my “why” re-lights that deep, inner fire to change my life for the better.

So, give some thought to this. See if you can find a soul-deep reason for the changes that you want to make. Make sure that this reason really touches something at the core of you, as then it will be deeply-rooted, and nothing will be able to stop you from reaching your goals.

5 thoughts on “Finding Your “Why”

  1. my “why” covers all three — first is health. You have heard that old saying that if you have your health you have everything and that is so true but most people take good health for granted. Until you have looked at a really serious health issue, you don’t really get it. The second is spiritual because I believe my body is a temple of God and I want to treat is as such. The third is relational — I want to be able to function like a normal person — not somebody who weighs/measures their food all the time, not somebody on a diet all the time — just a normal person. I don’t think most people know what that is anymore, though.

  2. Love this post! I keep having to remember my why every single time we’re at the gym (4 days a week) because I loathe exercising. BUT, we were recently “forced” into a situation where we have to be there, so I might as well get healthy. (I’d rather be reading.)

    1. Thank you! And yes… it’s so important, especially with exercise (and business!) to remember WHY we’re doing these things! And I think a big part of our “Why” also has to be centered on something OTHER than ourselves. ;)

      PS… If you want some ideas for workouts that are more enjoyable, just ask! ;) That’s what I do!

  3. Yes, yes, yes! Let desire of what you want pull you more than your pain of your current circumstances push you. Because as soon as you don’t feel that pain or feel it less (after making progress), you’ll revert back to your old ways if your why is not strong enough and clear enough! I speak from personal experience and what I have learned through coaching. Jenn, this is great.

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